I’m sitting in my car on a cold rainy Friday evening. One of my boys, I have 5, is at soccer practice, so I sit here and write to you all. Hoping that this topic will not only continue to inspire my journey but hopefully yours as well.
I have touched on parts work in a previous blog but for those who don’t know what it is, I will give a brief description. Parts work is when we identify the different parts we carry within ourselves. Most people have heard of our inner child. Well, this is taking that understanding to a much deeper level. All of us have parts. Some of us have hundreds of them. Multiple personalities stem from these parts splitting and at times completely taking over. These parts are formed during different times in our life to protect us or help us through stressful or often traumatic times.
Okay, now I know some of you may be thinking this is a little cooky, but if you are really honest with yourself you will remember times and moments when you felt younger than your age, or older, or wiser, or out of control. I mean I could go on and on, but I think you understand.
So parts work is when we start to identify these parts and by doing so, we can filter them out and identify our true selves. Honoring and thanking these parts but no longer allowing them to overcome us.
I’m dating this man. I mean I think we are dating haha. Its more a situationship at this point but there is a man. And we talk and see each other. We were texting back and forth yesterday when this overwhelming anxiety started to come over me. With no seeming thoughts attached. I was able to stop and ground myself. Then I went into a visual my EMDR therapist walked me through, where I walk away from my parts down a path. So, I started to walk away, and this anxiety part followed me and clung to me. It wouldn’t let me go! I almost started to become anxious apart from this anxious part. I then smiled and took a breath and hugged and thanked this part and let them know I had to walk this path alone. This part was hesitant, and I walked it back to the other parts and let it know that I was okay. I started to smile and skip down the path and looked back and said, “and you are okay now too.” I was then able to continue in my text conversation and my day from the person I truly am and not this anxious place inside me that no longer serves me.
As humans, in general, we so often run from self-reflection. Life is hard enough, and so critical, who wants to add their own self-criticism to it all! But man, self-reflection followed by positive action leads to the most beautiful healing and freedom. In a world where nothing is free, we can have that.
Until Next Time,
Jill
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